Hi, I'm Craig Kendall, the author of The Asperger's Syndrome
Survival Guide. In today's issue we will discuss...
What About Adults Who Were Never Diagnosed?
I received the following email from an adult who never got help and was diagnosed very late
I've had Asperger's all my life and finally, at age 65 I was "officially diagnosed" with it
and had first heard about it five years ago. It has made me a complete failure in my life
with hardly any friends, no family now with my mother's death last January and none of my
relatives have any interest in me as they never contact me.
I'm painfully aware that being "Asperger/Autistic" has made me a "complete jerk and
asshole." My job record has been spotty and now I feel I'm a washed up over the hill old man
with no future! So unless something significant happens soon I'm planning to end my life as
soon as my inheritance funds from my mother dry up. It will be impossible for me to live on
my $1,103 month Social Security check here in the Washington, DC area.
Feel free to use the info above to show the tragic effect that unknown/untreated Asperger's
has on a person. I really want to live and I would love to team up with a knowledgeable
counselor experienced in dealing with "Aspies"!
All of your books appear to deal with "another person" with Asperger's rather than self-help
books which I really need now until I can find somebody who knows this horrible syndrome!
There is a large segment of the Aspergers population who have never been diagnosed or have
finally been diagnosed but who have not benefited from years of therapy. The good news is
that the therapies and training that a child with Aspergers receives can work equally well for
an adult, irrespective of the person's age.
The following are therapies that are often very useful for an adult with Aspergers.
Occupational therapy can guide you in job selection
Training on job interviews and understanding what you
are good at can help with a career
Social skills training can help an AS adult understand
the subtleties of speech and how to interact with others in the daily give and take of
Many AS adults are challenged with organization. There
is help and training to organize your life, and so forth
Join a Support Group
Many adults suffer from no friends and little if any social interaction. It is sad and
difficult to go through life with failed and/or no relationships. I suggest that all of
those with Aspergers join a support group. Ideally, join a group where you can meet in person.
But if you live in a remote area, at least join an online support group. Here you can express
your feelings and frustrations with those who can feel your pain. Group support can be a life
line to those who feel that they have no other alternatives.
Where to Find Support Groups
Many support groups meet in person. I feel these are best because you will be able to
interact with others and simply get out of the house! A good site for finding support groups is
A great place to find people online to chat with is www.WrongPlanet.net.
For a full listing of support resources see my previous newsletter on support:
New Book For Adults
I receive a vast number of emails from adults who have questions about Aspergers. To help
these Aspie adults I am working on a new book focused on the issues which are most important to
adults with Aspergers. I do not have a planned completion date, but keep reading my newsletters
to find information on my new book for adults.
Note: my newly released book on Aspergers for Teens and Young Adults discusses bullying, anxiety, depression and what to do about it. Click here for more information:
Note: my newly released book on Aspergers for Adults discusses
how to make and keep friends, building relationships, employment, depression and the meaning of
life, therapy options and much more. Click here for more information:
This is just a small part of the answers you will need to successfully survive and thrive with
Aspergers. If you are looking for additional information immediately, go to the following site: